About The 1-1 Stumbler.
My name is Paul. I call myself "The Chief Stumbler." Why? Well, I came to realize this new parenting paradigm after I quite literally stumbled over a protruding tree root in one of my lowest parenting moments ever. But in the next moment, I was blessed to realize this simple principle, and now I am continually operating at my peak parenting performance and drawing into a closer 1-1 relationship with my boys. I had to share this new parenting paradigm with the world, so I built this website and offer the information for free. Read "The 1-1 Story"
My wife and I (married since 1996) cared for 13 foster children in our home and hearts over a seven year period, and on October 1, 2018, we adopted 5-year-old twin boys from the Oregon foster care system. The long 4-1/2 year journey to adopt our boys was difficult on many levels but also incredibly fun and rewarding at the same time. We've enjoyed amazing times together, from camping trips all over the Oregon wilderness to beach vacations up and down the West coast, harvesting wheat on a large family ranch and much more, all with an insatiable affinity for dirt, rocks, water and muddy puddles.
Below are images from our adoption day:
My wife and I (married since 1996) cared for 13 foster children in our home and hearts over a seven year period, and on October 1, 2018, we adopted 5-year-old twin boys from the Oregon foster care system. The long 4-1/2 year journey to adopt our boys was difficult on many levels but also incredibly fun and rewarding at the same time. We've enjoyed amazing times together, from camping trips all over the Oregon wilderness to beach vacations up and down the West coast, harvesting wheat on a large family ranch and much more, all with an insatiable affinity for dirt, rocks, water and muddy puddles.
Below are images from our adoption day:
James 1: 27 (NIV): Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: To look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
While I can claim a lot of wonderful and rewarding moments in my life, parenting was a struggle for me. The 70s and 80s did not provide a lot of parenting education for my parents, and as a result, we all suffered. I welcomed all the new and contemporary knowledge imparted to me during my time as a foster father. We took dozens of parenting classes, watched copious amounts of parenting videos, attended workshops, seminars and conferences on how to be "good parents," networked with other foster parents, and read all of the latest books and research papers. My eyes were open to how I could be a parent that operates at his highest and most efficient level.
Yet, at the same time, there was a bit of an information overload that I experienced. I had my favorite parenting methodologies for sure, but it was a bit difficult and confusing at times to recall everything I had learned at the moments when I needed them most. They all had great advice. If you experience this and that, then do that and this. When you're confronted with A, B or C, then you can respond with X, Y or Z. Don't do this. Do that. Say it this way, but not that way. Even with more than a decade of parenting education, it was hard to know what to do in any given situation. I felt there was a need for a more fundamental and direct approach to parenting.
As for me, I am a more straight-forward person. "Just give me the bullet points!" "Just tell me the best way to get it done!" In high school, I welcomed the "CliffsNotes" booklets that summarized the key points from books. Ultimately, I like things to be as streamlined as possible to make life easier.
That's what I love about The 1-1 Parenting Principle. It's simple. It's easy. Simple to understand. Easy for me to implement. Simple for my child to understand. Easy for me to stay consistent. Simple for me to enforce. And far more easy for me to see quick, effective and lasting results that benefit me, my child and my family. The best part is that it works so well in almost every single circumstance that you could ever imagine as a parent.
Please explore this website in the fullest. It's free! I want to share the new parenting paradigm I stumbled across so that you can operate at your peak parenting performance and live a vibrant family life.
Yet, at the same time, there was a bit of an information overload that I experienced. I had my favorite parenting methodologies for sure, but it was a bit difficult and confusing at times to recall everything I had learned at the moments when I needed them most. They all had great advice. If you experience this and that, then do that and this. When you're confronted with A, B or C, then you can respond with X, Y or Z. Don't do this. Do that. Say it this way, but not that way. Even with more than a decade of parenting education, it was hard to know what to do in any given situation. I felt there was a need for a more fundamental and direct approach to parenting.
As for me, I am a more straight-forward person. "Just give me the bullet points!" "Just tell me the best way to get it done!" In high school, I welcomed the "CliffsNotes" booklets that summarized the key points from books. Ultimately, I like things to be as streamlined as possible to make life easier.
That's what I love about The 1-1 Parenting Principle. It's simple. It's easy. Simple to understand. Easy for me to implement. Simple for my child to understand. Easy for me to stay consistent. Simple for me to enforce. And far more easy for me to see quick, effective and lasting results that benefit me, my child and my family. The best part is that it works so well in almost every single circumstance that you could ever imagine as a parent.
Please explore this website in the fullest. It's free! I want to share the new parenting paradigm I stumbled across so that you can operate at your peak parenting performance and live a vibrant family life.
