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Below are some tips to help you effectively use The 1-1 Parenting Principle.
1-1 TIP: Allow your child “Make-Up Minutes” by learning and growing
Situation: What if your child has given you too many minutes? Maybe you don't need so many.
Let your child make-up their minutes back from you by doing positive things. Your child would earn back 1 minute for every 1 minute they are doing things that help you, your child or your family. There are so many things they can do for you that could reward them the minutes they lost and help you at the same time.
You can have your child redeem their minutes by doing something that teaches them and enriches their lives without you needing to show them how to do anything. Here are ways your child can redeem their time:
– Have your child read by themselves in a quiet spot
– Let them do their favorite exercises for 15 minutes
– Simple chores that don't require your instruction or presence
– Draw something for a special friend or relative
– Make a LEGO or other building block creation
– Play interactive educational games on digital devices
– Play an educational board game (one player)
Remember! Don't let your child interrupt you if you are actively claiming your minutes. You need rest.
Situation: What if your child has given you too many minutes? Maybe you don't need so many.
Let your child make-up their minutes back from you by doing positive things. Your child would earn back 1 minute for every 1 minute they are doing things that help you, your child or your family. There are so many things they can do for you that could reward them the minutes they lost and help you at the same time.
You can have your child redeem their minutes by doing something that teaches them and enriches their lives without you needing to show them how to do anything. Here are ways your child can redeem their time:
– Have your child read by themselves in a quiet spot
– Let them do their favorite exercises for 15 minutes
– Simple chores that don't require your instruction or presence
– Draw something for a special friend or relative
– Make a LEGO or other building block creation
– Play interactive educational games on digital devices
– Play an educational board game (one player)
Remember! Don't let your child interrupt you if you are actively claiming your minutes. You need rest.
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1-1 TIP: Buy A Timer (for “Task-Timer” and “Make-Up Minutes”)
Situation: When you're directing your child to do a task. Situation: When your child is making-up minutes that they gave to you. A timer is a great visual for your child as they are performing a task or making-up minutes. You can set the timer for the amount of time your child needs to do a task, or your child can set the timer to get "Make-Up Minutes" back from you. Remember! Time is on your side. |
1-1 TIP: Offer Comfort & Compassion
Situation: You claim your minutes and your child starts to cry or throw a tantrum.
This is your opportunity to be "the good guy." Calmly and sympathetically offer hugs to your child if they want it. Let that be their choice. Reassure your child that you will be there for them if they need a hug. If they do take you up on the hugs, try not to lecture them or say anything at all. Just be there and console them.
Remember! Let the consequences do the work and be "the bad guy." You're "The Good Guy!"
Situation: You claim your minutes and your child starts to cry or throw a tantrum.
This is your opportunity to be "the good guy." Calmly and sympathetically offer hugs to your child if they want it. Let that be their choice. Reassure your child that you will be there for them if they need a hug. If they do take you up on the hugs, try not to lecture them or say anything at all. Just be there and console them.
Remember! Let the consequences do the work and be "the bad guy." You're "The Good Guy!"
1-1 TIP: Claim Minutes Immediately (if needed)
Situation: You are already exhausted, and your child does something that pushes you over the edge.
The 1-1 Parenting Principle suggests that you can determine when you want to claim your minutes, but oftentimes it is assumed that you collect minutes over a longer period of time before you can claim them for yourself. But sometimes, it's much smarter to claim your time immediately, as soon as your child does not listen. You don't need to wait to the end of the day to collect your time.
Remember! You know best what you need.
Situation: You are already exhausted, and your child does something that pushes you over the edge.
The 1-1 Parenting Principle suggests that you can determine when you want to claim your minutes, but oftentimes it is assumed that you collect minutes over a longer period of time before you can claim them for yourself. But sometimes, it's much smarter to claim your time immediately, as soon as your child does not listen. You don't need to wait to the end of the day to collect your time.
Remember! You know best what you need.
